Commitment Issues!

commitmentDaily Post – Commit

It is funny that the word commit can conjure up fear in the hearts of many and soothe the soul of others at the same time.

  • Many people, both men and women, are afraid of committing to a relationship. This can be because of a previous “bad experience” or because they don’t feel they can handle the responsibilities that go along with it. I fell into both of those categories. I had very few boyfriends through my life and got married in my mid-thirties. I believe I was just lonely and someone seemed to care. It went wrong and it took five years to leave and three more to have the courage to get the divorce. I also had a horrible lack of self-worth. So when I fell in love for real, I told him I would never marry again. Two or three months after the divorce was final he proposed and I felt all self-doubt wash away. We married six months after that (but we had known each other in different capacities for ten years). It took a long time for me to let all my walls down but I am now, during almost 17 years of marriage, totally committed to my husband in every way possible.
  • One big issue I still have and I think will always be a work in progress is, committing to a task, job, favour, etc. and then getting stuck. Sometimes I lose interest, my health gets in the way, my short attention span goes in another direction, or I realize I never wanted to do it in the first place. I want to only commit to things I can do reasonably well and make sure I see them through.
  • Another perspective on the word “commit” is a verb that usually stands for negativity and finality – To commit (murder, treason, fraud, burglary, purgery). This is not a good form of the word at all.
  • “Being committed” takes on two totally opposite meanings.
    • The first is to be committed to the task – this goes along with the first two points above.
    • The second form of “being committed” deals with mental health – She was committed into the hospital for depression. I had several hospital stays regarding my mental illness; however, on only one occasion was I actually committed. In all the others I was there on my own free will trying to feel better. I did meet several people during my stays who were committed to the psychiatric hospital.

I could actually go on; however, I believe this is a good list of the many ways to use the word commit. Now I am committed to feed my fur-kids and take Violet for her after dinner walk.

Lydia!

PS, I want to leave you with a great cover of Julia Michael’s “Issues” by Stephanie Rice on “The Voice”.

9 Replies to “Commitment Issues!”

  1. Commitment is a tough one indeed. You start new things with all this passion and excitement, but it inevitably winds down while you’re going through. All I can say is if the reason you started was good enough, you should stay the path.

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    1. Which reminds me, I still owe you something. Please don’t think I was “shirking my commitment”. I hit a rough patch with surgery, our move and an infection in both my leg and where the surgery was. I promise I will do my best to finish it ASAP.

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  2. Very interesting post to take a detailed look at commitment and commit. I was in England recently and a friend there has had a complete breakdown and her family had to put her into a hospital. There they call it being “sectioned” not “committed”. I thought that term, sectioned was interesting as to me it meant the person was now removed from the rest of us and the rest of society and sectioned off in another place.

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    1. Wow, that is very interesting. It is funny how two countries, which have been bound together formally and now respectfully, and speak the same language, can have so many different terms. I love languages! And thank you for your comment on my post. When I saw the “daily word” was commit, it all just sort of poured out. And since that hasn’t happened for awhile now I just went with it.

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