It is funny that the word commit can conjure up fear in the hearts of many and soothe the soul of others at the same time.
- Many people, both men and women, are afraid of committing to a relationship. This can be because of a previous “bad experience” or because they don’t feel they can handle the responsibilities that go along with it. I fell into both of those categories. I had very few boyfriends through my life and got married in my mid-thirties. I believe I was just lonely and someone seemed to care. It went wrong and it took five years to leave and three more to have the courage to get the divorce. I also had a horrible lack of self-worth. So when I fell in love for real, I told him I would never marry again. Two or three months after the divorce was final he proposed and I felt all self-doubt wash away. We married six months after that (but we had known each other in different capacities for ten years). It took a long time for me to let all my walls down but I am now, during almost 17 years of marriage, totally committed to my husband in every way possible.
- One big issue I still have and I think will always be a work in progress is, committing to a task, job, favour, etc. and then getting stuck. Sometimes I lose interest, my health gets in the way, my short attention span goes in another direction, or I realize I never wanted to do it in the first place. I want to only commit to things I can do reasonably well and make sure I see them through.
- Another perspective on the word “commit” is a verb that usually stands for negativity and finality – To commit (murder, treason, fraud, burglary, purgery). This is not a good form of the word at all.
- “Being committed” takes on two totally opposite meanings.
- The first is to be committed to the task – this goes along with the first two points above.
- The second form of “being committed” deals with mental health – She was committed into the hospital for depression. I had several hospital stays regarding my mental illness; however, on only one occasion was I actually committed. In all the others I was there on my own free will trying to feel better. I did meet several people during my stays who were committed to the psychiatric hospital.
I could actually go on; however, I believe this is a good list of the many ways to use the word commit. Now I am committed to feed my fur-kids and take Violet for her after dinner walk.
PS, I want to leave you with a great cover of Julia Michael’s “Issues” by Stephanie Rice on “The Voice”.