This isn’t going to be my normal style of post, but it is one I feel I need to write.
First of all, this is not a rant about President Trump. I used an image of Reality TV Host Donald Trump because it fit.
Since Bill Cosby, there has been a long list of celebrities, who have been outed for sexual misconduct in the last while. I don’t think this is a new thing; however, what is new is what is being done about it.
Kevin Spacey was let go from House of Cards, though the show is still going on. In Jeremy Piven’s case his show, “Wisdom of the Crowd”, is canceled because it revolves around his character. Harvey Weinstein was removed from a movie project he was working on. And there are many more men who have been accused and fired.
And this morning, just before going on air, Savannah Guthrie and the rest of the NBC “Today” morning show cast and crew found out that her co-anchor Matt Lauer was fired due to allegations from a colleague of sexual assault. The statement from the network said there was “reason to believe this was not an isolated incident.”
Of course, there have been others who have been accused and not given consequences but that is becoming the exception rather than the rule.
Personally, I am happy to see this action taken and would like to see anyone in the public eye who is caught and proved guilty of sexual misconduct fired from whatever position they hold. Maybe this will be a lesson for others in the future that this kind of behavior will not be accepted.
Where is this coming from? On my grad night, my date (who was picked by one of my friends when the person I asked couldn’t make it) took advantage of me after the same friend encouraged me to get really drunk. For 20 years I blamed myself but was informed in a group therapy session that what happened was date raped and that my friend was clearly in on it! This guy got away with it because I let him and I lived in shame for a very long time. People who take advantage of others need to be punished.
Okay, I am climbing off my soapbox now.
Lydia!
Being Lydia! 
I don’t like anyone getting away with any form of misconduct and agree with you that the sexual sort has been ignored for far too long.
I also prefer ‘innocent until proven guilty’ in a court of law, so can only assume that those who have gotten fired have much more evidence against them than you or I are likely to be privy to.
The flip side of these sexual misconduct accusations is that they can be ‘weaponized’. I don’t know if the ones against Moore are valid or not, and am glad I don’t need to vote one way or the others. There were similar allegations against Trump during the primaries, which I believe were proven as lies – can only recall the one about him groping some stewardess on a flight & it being proven he wasn’t even on that flight.
I, for one, value honesty…. and I hope you no longer consider that individual to be a friend, because that is NOT how a friend behaves.
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Dear Lydia…
I am so sorry to read that you too have been a victim too. I almost feel like I’ve been living in Care Bear Land all these years, when I read all the testimonies on Facebook and WordPress, and when I follow the news… No woman or man should ever feel responsible for being abused, and spend years living with such shame! *Big hugs*
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Thanks, Cyranny, I apologize for not replying to this sooner. I really appreciate your concern and don’t feel you have been “in Care Bear Land”. I wish we all could live there; however, society needs a range of experiences to function. Those of us with scars need to see that life can be good and those without, need to see what can happen.
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Very wisely said… And very true. 🙂
I wish you Lydia, your hubby and your loved ones all the best for 2018! I hope you’ll keep sharing your thoughts with us, because it is always a pleasure to exchange with you 🙂
*Big hugs and kisses*
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Dear Sweet, Friend… First of all, I feel your pain! As you know, I too went through similar horrors and it took a long time to put the blame where it belonged, stop blaming myself, living ashamed and to do something about it! I did file a police complaint against those who harmed me! Here in Canada we are fortunate that there is no maximum length of time between when we are hurt and when we file a report. In my case it took finding out that this individual was still preying on other women and children (even though it was several years after I had been harmed. It really bothered me to know that my silence may have been the reason others were hurt. I know it is not my fault, but it really, really destroyed me to think that I may have possibly prevented any of them from having avoiding that heartache. That is why I am glad there is no statute of limitations on reporting about these crimes against women and children. It is still a very tough thing to do and the burden of proof remains on the injured party. That is why so many do not speak up. At least today you are more likely to be believed, and these sexist, misogynistic behaviours are no longer seen as acceptable by most of society. Yep, there will always be some bleak sub-human types who will laugh and joke and find it all harmless, appropriate and excusable. My comfort comes in knowing that they will one day be held accountable for their idiocy. Frankly I pity them, for the grace period will be up and their excuses and apologies will fall on deaf ears.
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Thanks, Jewels. Yes, I remember our conversations on this subject. I am glad that you were brave enough to come forward and please don’t beat yourself up about others. That was completely out of your control. I am just glad that the accountability is being passed on to not only the “common folks” but those in the limelight as well. They may not be charged but the thought of losing their careers will hopefully make them think twice. Love you!
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad to see these powerful people being held to account for their actions. It’s about time.
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I always feel if I am going to express my opinion here, I should show its relevancy to my life. So I am not just spouting off! ;-). Thanks for your feedback. And yes, it is definitely time.
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i am so sorry to hear this happened to you, and no one should be able to get away with this. end of story.
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Thank you! I agree. And the thing is when a series or movie is cancelled because of one person’s indiscretion, they are not the only ones that pay the price. All cast and crew and the audience who follow it lose too.
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Lydia rants on where the blame belongs, and the long pain of taking it on when its not yours.
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Thanks, Bob – for the reblog and the kind words.
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Men. Some not all. Their pants or shorts change from shorts to trousers but isn’t funny how they Never really mature. “The saying nine months trying to get out the womb on to spend the rest oc their lives trying to get back in.” Hmmm in some cases so true. ‘Not, only doing it, thinking about or doing it.’ Years of mothers ‘saying stop playing with it or it will fall off.’
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