Motherhood Isn’t Always What You Expect

One of my least favourite days is fast approaching – Mother’s Day.

Even though I have come to terms with the relationship I had with my mother and the fact I never became one, it is still hard watching other women getting honoured by their families.

I have so many “adopted” kids who give me flowers (that don’t bother my allergies) and/or cards and I feel very loved. However, it would mean so much just to have someone call me Mom with no quotes around the word.

I would also like to be able to honour my Mom in person and thank her for all the good that she did add to my world. She gave me my love of cooking, crafts, and art.

I love my mother-in-law and she is very important in my life. She is my Mom in every sense of the word except by birth. I intend on surprising her with a small cake and some flowers on the day to show her how much she means to me…and to her son of course.

We have two young Russian girls who bring their three Siberian Huskies to the dog park twice a day. They are so sweet and while their English is perfect, certain phrases and questions show their Russian heritage. The one that comes to mind was when they asked me the other day “why do people always use in-law, for us, it is just Mom and Dad for the parents of a spouse”. It took me a few minutes to come up with something and what I figured out was that our parents are ours by birth and our in-laws become our parents through the law of marriage. They seemed to like that.

But I can see it from their perspective. I call them Mom and Dad with no in-law after it and no inferred quotation marks. They are the only parents I have and I love them as if they were mine by birth. But I am glad they aren’t because if they were my hubby would be my brother instead! 😉

So, for all the Moms out there whether it is by birth, marriage or in your heart, Happy Mother’s Day! Enjoy this beautiful tribute by Amy Sky.



4 Replies to “Motherhood Isn’t Always What You Expect”

  1. Hi Lydia. Lovely post. I spent so many years lamenting the fact that I wasn’t a mother until I realised that God didn’t need me to learn that lesson this time around I have other challenges to face such as learning to extend that love to everyone. “God hath made of one blood all nations.” Acts 17:26. Much love , Anita


    1. Thanks, Anita. I had people praying for me to have a child until one friend said she received an answer – If God gave me a child of my own, I wouldn’t be able to care for His other children who needed a mother figure. That helped a lot.


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